The featured image of this post is from this article that’s been making it’s way around social media as of late. Condescendingly titled, No, I Don’t Have to Tell You I’m Trans Before Dating You, this article, posted on The Odyssey Online is a BuzzFeed-esque winge fest of stuck up, ill-witted progressive turdstains to regurgitate their self-entitled, self important and self-indulgent rhetoric onto the evil hetero masses and give them yet another reason to vote republican. Not only is it another ego-stroking ploy for the fringe section of the LGBT community to hand out another arbitrary checklist of things not to do or say in the presence of the ever-so omnipotent gods of the transgender community, it’s also as ass-backwards as it is supercilious. Now, usually, I stay the ever-loving fuck away from anything that includes the words ”cis” ”problematic” or ”—phobia” unironically, but the sheer ignorance and ass-backwards nature of this and the fact that so many people are actually buying into and agreeing with this (including a close relative of mine) is too much too ignore. It’s another example of how directionless and warped the far left has really become.
The article talks about the case of Joseph Scott Pemberton, the US Marine who murdered Jennifer Laude, after having sex with her in 2014 after finding out she was a trans woman. It’s not about the actual gruesome crime itself however, but more about the outrage that it sparked, not about the murder, but about how Laude didn’t disclose the information to Pemberton that she was trans. As awful and fucked as that is, that isn’t the full focus of this article. What it does revolve around, however, is the disdain that some trans folk feel, not for the murder that took place, but the apparently ”transphobic” expectation that cis men have for their own to disclose the fact that they are trans right up front before anything romantic or sexual takes place. To me, that’s totally reasonable and I don’t get how it isn’t or how it’s even debatable (then again, whether or not pedophilia is wrong is also up for debate nowadays, so I guess anything is). Bringing up information of that caliber is absolutely essential at the start of any potential sexual encounter and it CAN be a matter of safety or even life or death. It’s unfortunate, but some men just don’t mess around with that kind of thing.
When it comes to potential dating or sex partners, being transgender isn’t a trivial thing that just casually comes up in a conversation. It’s not something like say, what kind of car you drive or what your natural hair color is, it’s something vital that needs to be put up front straight away. I thought that was just common sense, but then I remember, we’re in 2017; that isn’t exactly an essential thing to a majority of the young tikes of this generation. To them, entitlement is much more important than common sense or their own safety. See, the funniest thing about the LGBT community and the progressive left is that they either want to have their cake and eat it too or just don’t know which direction they’re going in. On one hand, they want to protect their own and those of the LGBT community, but at the same time, they want to demonize and wage some kind of petty war against their heterosexual and straight counterparts, which will only lead to more danger. If a guy is out looking to get laid and goes to a bar and runs into you, you tell him nothing, you end up hooking up and go back to his hotel room, apartment, whatever, things get hot and heavy and he unzips your pants and something he doesn’t want pops out, what do you think will happen? Now, some guys may be nicer and let you walk away or walk away themselves, but others just aren’t. In fact, some of the things they’ll do can be very lethal, and how will this belief of not having to disclose that one important piece of information hold up when you’re laying in a hospital bed, possibly with broken bones and close to death? I doubt it will hold up very well, if at all.
Do I condone that kind of violence? Absolutely not. Am I blaming the victim? No. but the case of Jennifer Laude is a prime example of how dangerous this way of thinking is and how contradictory those who hold this narrative really are. If you want a safer environment for your fellow LGBT folk, then you need to be honest and up front, not secretive. Privacy is one thing, but there’s a difference between privacy and secrecy. Hiding your identity from a potential partner is dishonest and unfair to them. If you think otherwise, then you shouldn’t be actively searching for love or sex. That may seem like a harsh reality for you, but your sense of entitlement will only take you so far and will inevitably become your downfall. Just like you don’t have to live as the gender you were born as, the rest of us don’t have to date or fuck you. We as humans have preferences, and sometimes you’re not one of them. That’s not a transphobic thing, it’s just the way it is.
So understand, i’m not advocating for violence against trans people, nor am I demonizing them in any way, but this kind of mentality and way of going about things is what WILL lead to violence and even murder. Spreading this message of deceit and trickery will ultimately lead to the exact thing you’re trying to fight against, and it’s honestly the most ass-backwards way of thinking that I’ve seen by the left to date. This whole “I don’t owe anyone anything” culture that exists today also plays a role in this, as I read in a comment under a link to this article. It’s not about owing anyone anything, it’s about responsibility. You have the responsibility to yourself to disclose the fact that you are a trans person to a potential partner of any kind. People have preferences, as foreign of a concept as that is to most people nowadays, and you could ruin any chance you have with them and put yourself in harm’s way. There are a lot of homicidal maniacs out there who give no fucks. So please, anyone who is spouting off this sentiment and anyone who is buying into it, just take notice of this and rethink it. The world doesn’t revolve around you and it isn’t going to cater to you or your needs and preferences. It’s your responsibility to put vital aspects of your being up front from the jump and make it clear right away. You DO owe it to them, as well as yourself. The consequences of not dong so can be life threatening. Not every guy is like this one:
And remember, I’m not sorry.
Until next time.